Perspective

We admire one another for lots of reasons, many of which are pretty much fixed by our genes. Like being tall or slender. So you may not do much about them. Or you might say you like someone’s spontaneity, or their conscientiousness. But again, those are things you can’t really change once you have grown up.

So what can you work on that will make you more attractive and successful? You can improve your character. People often use the word “character” to mean “personality”. But they’re not really the same. Personality is mostly about the way you think, while your character involves your morals and values-and we choose those. And you know what? It is crucial that we have a really good character, and you will also succeed in life! And then you will be admired for being successful. So what should you do to build a really great character? Work on your integrity. So that what you say and what you do both reflect the same set of core values. Thus your actions and your words match up. Closely related is a clear sense of what’s right and what’s wrong. Just so everyone knows that you are fair and even handed, rather than forever taking advantage of everyone.

Malign not others! Because if you badmouth someone else to a friend, they’ll wonder if you also speak ill of them. Worse still, they’ll even stop sharing their real thoughts with you. Because everyone prefers being around optimists, choose not to be negative and actively look for the positive aspects of life. Constantly, seeking opportunities rather than dwelling on problems.

People always remember someone who is helpful, thoughtful and kind. And they admire ambition. So set yourself challenging goals. Because not only will you achieve more in your own life, but you will inspire others. And they will remember you for that too. We admire persistence as well ambition is never enough. You’ve got to persevere if you are to succeed. So whenever you stumble, just pick yourself up and get going again.

Most importantly, consciously set out to be compassionate and understanding. Because we really appreciate people who can empathize with us when the going is tough. And who help us see our way through life’s difficulties. And re-energize us. Believe in yourself, and work on your self-confidence. Accepting yourself as you truly are and being secure in your relationships. Because insecurity is extremely unattractive! But if you are comfortable in your own skin, and expect to be treated well, then that’s how others will treat you.

Finally, be open minded and forever willing to learn. Because once you are set in your ways, then you will close yourself off to new ideas and possibilities. And never cease to spot exciting opportunities. We also prefer the company of people who are open minded, and who listen to our ideas and views. We also admire people who take responsibility for their actions. So never blame others for your problems, or act like a victim. Instead, learn from your difficulties. And before long you will be admired. Have a virtuous 2018, Shall you?